Keep it safe, while keeping it edgy. Am not the aggresive type oh, i like to do it slow and steady with kisses and smoothing. Then work your way down — nibbling and biting as you go. I had a submissive once who was like your wife. Use Your Voice Get demanding. Couple pulling her hair with some other sexual maneuver. Let her know it turned you on and see how she reacts. And, even if you get a good reaction, make sure she actually wants to do this, too. We like kinky sex, but he's never been one to take charge or to be rough or anything like that.
Gone are the tender caresses, and in their place are commands. One aspect of rough sex for many people is control — with you having more and her having less. If she's into the idea and, you know, check beforehand , don't just grab whatever rope you have lying around. Keep your persona to keep the rough sex hot. Use Your Voice Get demanding. Tell her what to do. At the same time biting my back with her teeth and all. Without a safe word, rough sex could be rape. In fact, there have been times when I have completely lost my erection just because I needed something a little more intimate. Ask For It If she brings it up first, then you can skip this step. She may be the natural who gets your juices flowing. Asking them to change is not an option, they are hardwired for this. A woman wrote to me on my AskApril. I had a submissive once who was like your wife. A fun way to amp up rough sex is to bring some bondage into it — like, say, tying your partner up, thus having total control over her limbs and positioning. Leaving a mark is often very much a part of rough sex. Your post just reminded me of that slim like snake girl ,thank God she's not my wife or girlfriend. I feel like there's no solution but to end the relationship. I've told my wife about this, and not only is she unsupportive, it offends her that what turned me on 7 yrs ago doesn't anymore today. Blindfolds like this one are a great product for adding some sexy energy to your rough sex. They basically have permission to be aggressive and intense — feelings that they normally rein in. The full moon is bright. Use Your Teeth Try biting at the nape of her neck not hard enough to draw blood! One way to shift the power balance is to blindfold her — that'll give you much more power, as she won't be able to see what you're doing and will have to let you take more control of the situation. Discuss A Safe Word That being said, if she is into it, you'll need to agree on a safe word before engaging in any rough sex. The intimacy that the bond created by rough sex creates between a man and his partner is more than just a sexual connection. If you're amping up the intensity of the sex — and especially if you're restraining your partner — you'll definitely want to ensure that she's well lubricated.